A person's capacity to get along with others is a necessary talent, and it is even considered a component of emotional intelligence.
According to research conducted by the Center for Creative Leadership, one's capacity to successfully engage and collaborate with people accounts for eighty-five percent of one's overall success in life.
Aside from that, according to psychologist Sidney Jourard, the majority of our pleasure in life is derived from our ability to establish and sustain effective interpersonal connections with others. On the other hand, the majority of our misery is caused by our inability to get along with other people.
Researchers at Trinity College Dublin discovered evidence that humans began to evolve more complex brains when they engaged in cooperation and teamwork, which means that they got along with and worked well with others. The findings were published in the journal Proceedings of the Royal Society B and were based on experiments conducted at the university.
The good news is that we can all enhance our "people skills" and, in the process, raise our emotional intelligence, which is beneficial to our general well-being and health.
Here are eight excellent suggestions for getting along with others:
Maintain a calm and comfortable attitude towards oneself. When you are confident in your own skin, you naturally make people feel comfortable around you. Even the most socially uncomfortable person may relax when they are in the presence of someone who is comfortable and calm.
When there is a sense of comfort in the room, it makes it easier for any encounter to be seamless and pleasant.
Demonstrate that you are interested and attentive. Distracted or disinterested behavior is one of the most distracting and debilitating ways to engage with or communicate with someone. If you do this, it conveys the idea that the other person is insignificant to you or that you have more important things to do than spend time with them.
When you are not present or paying attention, it is very difficult to connect with or cooperate with another person.
Maintain an open mind and be adaptable. Because of our increasingly varied society, it is more essential than ever to have an open mind.
By approaching an encounter with preconceived ideas that are either narrow or too broad, we put the other person on the defensive, which makes it difficult to get along with or work collaboratively with that person.
In the same way, being adaptable in terms of your schedule, activities, and openness to try new things makes you a pleasure to work with or play with.
Refrain from passing judgement (of people or their opinions). "Try to be inquisitive rather than judgmental." Walt Whitman penned a poem.
When we meet someone and make snap judgments about them based on their appearance or attitude, we have a tendency to label them, preventing us from learning new and fascinating elements about who they are as a person.
As a result, we make it more difficult to comprehend and connect to them, both of which are necessary for getting along.
Maintain a positive attitude. Everyone enjoys being in the company of a nice individual. People who are pleasant are kind, charming, honest, and sincere.
The presence of a nice person fosters trust in others and makes it easier for individuals to exchange ideas, views, and information, all of which are essential for meaningful interactions to take place.
Keep the whining and blaming others for your issues to a minimum. We all need input and guidance from our friends or mentors from time to time. However, making this a habit is not recommended.
Complaining on a frequent basis gives the impression that you are self-centered, pessimistic, and unable to handle your own issues. Rather than bringing us down, we want to be around happy, optimistic individuals who add to our worldview rather than pull us down.
In the event that you have a reputation as a complainer, people will flee when they see you and will not want to interact with you.
Be considerate of others. Being kind and thoughtful of others encourages them to let their guard down and/or to let go of any obstacles that may come in the way of a high-quality social interaction in the first instance.
Showing care for others has the additional advantage of increasing the feel-good neurotransmitters dopamine, oxytocin, and other endorphins in both you and the person who is being shown consideration.
Under these conditions, it's impossible not to have a strong conversation!
Maintain a high moral character and level of honesty. Good character and integrity are the most valuable assets you can offer to any connection, whether professional or personal. Nothing creates a more stable basis for long-term development, trust, and collaboration than a strong foundation.
Character and integrity in the workplace help to foster an environment that encourages open communication, the sharing of innovative ideas, and the making of sound decisions.
Not only does having a strong moral character make you a great team player, but it also fosters a sense of belonging and collaboration, which increases the likelihood of completing any project successfully.
Individually, character and integrity promote trust, intimacy, and the long-term success of a marriage or other relationship. Getting along with other people is very essential, whether it is on a personal or professional level.
When you have the social skills and emotional intelligence to connect to a diverse variety of people, you will be successful in whatever activity you do in your life.
Following in the footsteps of President Theodore Roosevelt, "Knowing how to get along with people is the most essential single element in the recipe for success."